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The emotion behind memorial benches

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The seats that recall lives and memories as well as being public pieces of art.

In the serene corners of parks, bustling city squares, and picturesque coastal vistas across the United Kingdom, a unique form of remembrance silently speaks to passers-by — the Memorial Bench. 

These unassuming pieces of furniture serve as more than just places to rest weary legs; they encapsulate the essence of individuals, with their stories etched in wood or metal, and the memories of lives lived and loved. 

Each bench has a unique tale to tell, a narrative that transcends the boundaries of time and space. It becomes clear that these seats are more than just physical structures — they are portals to the past, connecting us to the emotions, triumphs, and tribulations of those who once walked the same paths we tread today.

The plaques affixed to these benches are more than mere inscriptions, they are windows into the lives of those being honored. Names, birthdates, and dates of death provide a chronological framework, but the true essence lies in the anecdotes and snippets of personal stories. 

I met a lady while taking a walk on Brighton Beach – she was sitting alone on a bench by the roadside, looking at the sea with a pensive expression.

In our conversation I learned that she was named Sarah, a resident of Brighton, and she shared the story of her father, David Thompson, whose memorial bench overlooking the sea became a symbol of enduring love. “Dad used to bring me here when I was a child,” she recalled.

War Memorial Bench
Four World War commemorative benches have been installed in the Memorial Gardens in Heywood [Gerald England]

“When he passed away, we knew this was where he belonged. The bench is more than a seat, it’s a continuation of the countless conversations we had while gazing at the waves together.”

Memorial benches are not limited to one geographical location. They span the length and breadth of the United Kingdom, creating an interconnected network of remembrance that transcends borders.

From the historic gardens of Edinburgh to the rugged cliffs of Cornwall, these benches serve as silent witnesses to the ebb and flow of time.

Through interviews with travellers who chance upon these memorials, we explore the universal language of loss and the solace found in unexpected places.

Glasgow student James Anderson told me about his experience cycling through the suburbs of Manchester and discovering, when stopping for a rest by the road, a memorial bench dedicated to an unidentified person. 

“I didn’t know the person, but reading the plaque made me realise that grief and love are universal. We might not share the same stories, but we all share the same emotions. It was a powerful moment of connection,” James said

Memorial benches are not stagnant symbols frozen in time. They evolve into living legacies, shaping the landscapes they inhabit – fostering a sense of communal remembrance.

Communities regularly connect with the stories behind the benches, ensuring that the memories they hold remain vivid and durable, whether through organised events, educational programs, or conservation efforts.

Rachel Carter, a community organiser in Lambeth London, shares her passion for preserving the legacy of memorial benches. “These benches are not just for the families—they belong to the entire community. We normally organise events around them, encouraging people to share stories and celebrate the lives of those commemorated. It’s a beautiful way to keep the spirit alive.”

Memorial bench
All the benches along The Leas had flowers attached to them [Marathon]

Along the banks of the Thames stand a series of memorial benches, each adorned with different plaques, some bearing the names and stories of individuals whose lives were tragically claimed by the relentless grip of the Covid-19 pandemic. They have become poignant testaments to the collective grief of a community with unprecedented loss.

The Covid-19 pandemic has left an indelible mark on societies worldwide, with communities recovered with loss and grief. A poignant and heartfelt tribute to the victims of the pandemic has taken shape in the form of memorial benches. 

In Battersea Park, a bench stands adorned with messages for Dr. Jonathan Harper, a dedicated healthcare professional who lost his life while on the frontline battling the pandemic. One of the park’s maintenance personnel said, “Jon’s bench is a place where we, come together to remember his sacrifice and the sacrifices of so many medical workers. It’s a symbol of solidarity.”

Walking along the South Bank in London, some memorial benches same honoring essential workers who selflessly served their communities during the pandemic. The engraved names represent not just individuals but a collective spirit of resilience and compassion. 

Many Covid-19 memorial benches have been installed in Birchmere and Gallions parks dedicated to those who lost their lives during the Covid-19 pandemic. This is part of a Royal Borough of Greenwich initiative and has seen 23 benches opened in parks across the borough. The Thamesmead benches have been installed alongside trees which have been planted next to each bench.

Councillor Danny Thorpe, Leader of the Council said: “I encourage residents, friends and colleagues alike to make use of these peaceful spaces, to remember loved ones and reflect on the challenges we have all faced. 

“I hope these memorials will also serve as a thank you to our key workers, a reminder of their hard work, dedication and of the huge adversities each and every one of us have had to overcome.” 

These simple yet powerful tributes embody the resilience and solidarity that define the human spirit during times of adversity. As the nation continues to heal and rebuild, these benches serve as lasting symbols of remembrance, ensuring that the stories of those who have been lost are etched into the collective memory of the UK.

COVID-19 Memorial Bench
Two memorial benches to commemorate Hackney public servants who lost their lives in the pandemic can now be visited in London Fields Park [NHS]

It is worth mentioning that some people are making contributions to memorial benches, creating something meaningful that can be shared with other people.

Open technology enthusiasts Terence and Liz Eden, are preserving their legacy through websites and blogs. The couple designed and built Open Benches.org, a mapping site dedicated to those memorial benches. 

It was a way to record and celebrate the existence of memorial benches across the world. The site features an interactive map so users can see existing records, and an interface to upload photos of new benches.

Anyone can contribute to the site using a smart phone or other camera which can take geo-tagged photos. Simply take the photo, upload it to the site, and type in the inscription. It will automatically be added to the map.

Over 15,000 have been added to the website thus far, with the majority of them being from the UK. The plaques they chart are often sad, deeply personal, sometimes uplifting and occasionally funny. 

“A quiet reminder of the people gone but not forgotten,” says Terence, who believes memorial benches are a “low-cost, low-effort way to learn about our community”.

Their aim is to reflect the respect that people have when they sit on a bench, read the commemoration on the plaque, and consider why it is a special place for a particular family.

The UK’s biggest bereavement charity says benches can anchor families to memories of special times they spent with a loved one during their lives, rather than only recall an often traumatic end.

“When people create memorial benches for their loved ones what they do not see is that in fact they create public works of art,” according to the blog post The Journey Of A Memorial Bench described.

The craftsmanship behind each memorial bench is a labor of love. Local artisans, skilled in the art of woodworking or metal crafting, dedicate their talents to fashioning these timeless tributes. From the meticulous carving of initials and dates to the selection of durable materials that withstand the test of time, every detail is carefully considered. 

From the crafting of each bench to the stories etched into their plaques, these tributes transcend the physical and resonate in the collective heart of a nation. They remind us that, in the quiet corners of our lives, the echoes of the past persist, continue to shape their stories.

They may be gone, but they are never forgotten.


Featured image by Russell Merryman

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