There is no greater feeling than returning home to the sweet smell of plantains being fried, chicken stew being cooked and okra being grilled in a home surrounded with African decor. Or in a home cluttered with ornaments, images of a generation that grew up in a continent far different to our time and fabrics telling a story of a tribe somewhere in a village.
For many generations before me, home was in that photographed village. With the influence of the diverse city life, it would’ve been easy to diminish the family traditions to fit in. But many took it upon themselves to open restaurants like Aunt Dee’s Bakery in Enfield that teleport you to an island in Jamaica with the aroma of spices. Or to clothing shops in Forest Gate filled with African fabrics, and tailors designing traditional garments where women of both African and Jamaican descent unite to laugh, converse and enjoy the company of strong black women.

Ester Temenu’s family photo [Ester Temenu]
As I get older I realise the challenges many Black British people have had to face to connect with their heritage and yet still embrace the multi-cultural city we live in. A city which can have one street that has a variety of different countries represented in it with shops from India, China, Jamaica, Greece, Turkey, Nigeria and Britain.
It can be easy to become native to the surroundings and forget about your culture. So that’s why when I visited three African and Caribbean mothers and fathers with homes that invited me into a time capsule of history, culture and a lingering scent of spices that filled my soul. I wanted to explore how they kept their identity and passed it onto their children.
Akua Bempah is a 66 year old business saleswoman, she worked in textiles and is a seamstress. Having grown up in the small town of Kumasi in Ghana, her number one goal was to make sure her son Nana absorbed the history and traditions of Ghana. From keeping the strong dialect of Twi and remaining disciplined. “I wanted to make sure Nana can look after himself when I am not around,” she told us.

‘It can be easy to become native to the surroundings and forget about your culture’ [Darnell Temenu]
The difference in status is definitely a huge contrast for Bempah and her children as in Ghana her family are considered royalty. “In Ghana, my family are royals. We have everything we need and more.” Although her family have wealth in Kumasi, in Britain she works hard juggling three different occupations to keep her family looked after. The weather is definitely something Akua has never been able to adjust to. “I cannot stand the UK cold, my African self needs sunshine all the time.”
Despite growing up as ‘royalty’ in Ghana and being surrounded by a tropical climate, the opportunities in Britain invited her here to pursue her passion in the textiles industry. “Britain was my destination to expand my business, it was less problematic with crime and more free and enjoyable. People may have been happier when I first moved though during that time rather than now.”
Ester’s son Nana definitely felt the impact of his mother’s cultural teachings throughout his childhood and feels the culture strengthened his manhood. “I feel like the culture has helped mould my mentality which is, you want something you get it, don’t let anyone shoot you down,” says the 20 year-old.Even though in Ghana his family were elite, he remained humble in school and avoided discussing his upbringing with his friends. “In school, I never really explained my culture to those outside of my friendship group because my family are royals and I was always taught to be wary.”
The trips to Ghana influenced Nana’s connection to somewhere he essentially calls home. “The history of Ghana, Africa in general really excites me and how it came to be such a great fortress to the world.” Nana described the impact of the slave castles in Cape Coast and how they made him proud to be Ghanian. He makes sure he returns on every visit and although he remembers each fact the guide gives him, he always ends up feeling emotional seeing what his ancestors went through.
Nana keeps the strong beliefs his Mum educated him with but he wants his children to be free with learning through their own experiences. “I will teach my kids what I can, but I’d rather let experience teach them.”

‘Britain was my destination to expand my business, it was less problematic with crime and more free and enjoyable’ [Akua Bempah]
During Ester’s youth, her experiences growing up were quite different to her son Darnell’s. “My own personal experience, it was great but my siblings didn’t enjoy it because London was quite racist and divided and when they went to school there was racism. I was quite lucky growing up in the 1980s. Funny enough, there were only two black families in my school but I didn’t really experience racism. I didn’t even realise I was black until secondary school, so for me it was good.”

Temenu’s parents. [Darnell Temenu]
He describes that his love for his family came from his Caribbean culture. “My family are from Guyana, South America but our culture is Caribbean as we are the only English speaking part of South America. Guyanese people are very family orientated and I’ve grown up with amazing memories.” says the father of one.
His daughter, who is bi-racial, has already visited the Caribbean as Daren makes a conscious effort to show his daughter the beauty of his family’s roots. “It’s vitally important to me that Autumn knows her Guyanese history. She’s only one year old at the moment but the first music she’s danced to was Soca and she’s got the moves already.
“I will take her to the Caribbean as much as possible. She recently came away with us to visit my Mum, her Grandmother in Barbados and we will go to Guyana in a few months, something that’s taken me my whole lifetime to do,” he told us.
“Soca music is in my blood. For many years I’ve witnessed my Grandmother gather generations of people together from family and friends into her home and party. It wouldn’t even have to a special occasion it was about music and being together. Every house party is a carnival and celebration of living life. My Grandparents have instilled that in us and I will never forget the endless house parties.”

‘She’s only one year old at the moment but the first music she’s danced to was Soca and she’s got the moves already.’ [Daren Dixon]
“Although I am getting older, the traditions have always remained the same since I was a little child. At Christmas Guyanese families have a dish called pepper pot which I swear is from the heavens. When you hear a Guyanese person speak about Christmas the conversation always heads in the direction of pepper pot.
“You have to love the passionate manner in which my fellow Caribbean people speak about this lovely meat stew, most Guyanese serve it on Christmas morning with a thick slice of their traditional plait bread. The tender pieces of meat falling of the bones and the rich gravy. Yum that rich gravy! You’d rip a piece of the bread and dunk in into that sauce spiced with cinnamon, herbs and cassareep (a thick molasses like reduction made from cassava). It’s heavenly! I’ve had to make a slightly different version now that I’m a pescatarian.”

Daren speaking at an Asos panel discussing influencers and social media. [Daren Dixon]
His family made the decision to move him to Shirley in Surrey to go to a great school in a safe area. “I suffered a little racism at times but because I was very good at football I was more accepted and less racism came my way. My parents encouraged me to be fearless and to embrace being Black and British an always emphasised to me how lucky I was as the same opportunities which were not in Guyana. So they helped me fall in love with London.”
Daren describes his youth in Surrey as multicultural. “lI grew up with a kaleidoscope of friends that were a multicultural bunch. I’m so thankful of that as it’s served me well in the workplace, travelling and relationships as an adult. It’s a nice feeling to look back and feel like I had the best teenage years.”
With social media providing an open space for people to discuss race and raise awareness for racism or sexism. Daren feels as if we are so focused on race as opposed to people. “I think we’ve gone backwards and we are less tolerant of one another. We talk about race and not people… all the time!”

Daren with his good friend Harry Uzoka. [Daren Dixon]
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Featured image by Darnell Temenu.